You will disagree with my Politics

I am a political man. I have an opinion about the role of government and how that affects markets. I appreciate the Constitution, the intentions of the framers and what it all means for US citizens today. The way I vote is related to how I think policy should be created both at home and abroad. More than likely, somewhere down the line,  you will disagree with me.

And I am okay with that.

I also LOVE talking and debating and arguing politics. In fact, people who are willing to engage a long, intellectually challenging and loud conversation with me on the day’s political news quickly become some of my closest friends. Sometimes I am on my game. And other times (like this past Sunday in the Children’s Ministry Office), I can not get my thoughts out and I lose the conversation. Regardless, I LOVE it — the push back and the passionate exchange that happens when a good political argument gets going makes me LOVE MY LIFE x 1000.

I know a lot of people do not love politics.

The part I do not like is when political differences creates relational distance. To avoid an argument, many work really hard at not bringing it up. Many people refuse to talk about it publicly. And for some, this method works. But avoiding political conversations for the sake of harmony is actually false harmony, at least for those who are passionate about the way things work in our country. In my opinion, avoiding political conversations for the sake of harmony indicates just how fragile nature of our relationships that comes with an inability to be honest about what we think.

And they do not have to be.

Yes…politics drives many of us crazy. And often these conversations include personal jabs that are unnecessary. When people get into heated debate, they often make offensive statements that cause real pain. It all comes with the territory and it is an area that I for one am always working on. But aren’t we all? The same thing happens over sports…but that is not going away any time soon (keeping our fingers crossed).

So when I start tweeting my politics, don’t go defriending me on Facebook. For goodness sake, send me a message and argue hard. Bring your best thoughts and your thickest skin. I bet we will find an even deeper appreciation for each other. And when you lose (and you will), offer to buy lunch so we can talk about all the other things that matter in our lives. Trust me, I will probably do the same when I lose (which does not happen unless you are Scott Coleman or Richy Diaz).

The proof that you and I are really close is that we can have a passionate debate about the Republican primary , then go have a good plate of sushi…all in the context of a strong, dynamic friendship. #mypolitics


  1. But I’m not a Repbulican. 🙂 Well I’m not a democrat either… so… there you. Good blog. From someone who is not a debator/ arguer. I err on the side of “dialogue” vs debating. But in the end- its all about the same thing I guess. Bless you.

  2. Encouraging political discussion is a good platform to sit upon, but I wonder about the specific motives and determinations you have offered as a suggestion to further the exchange of opinion. I am all for the exchange of opinion between individuals. I disagree, however, that one’s decision to forgo political discussion creates a false harmony. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but ovne should not be encouraged to engage in discussion of said opinion unless they feel comfortable. For example, let’s say I’m with a friend and he suggests the Occupy movement was a joke funded by Democratic pundits and full of envious youths that wasted their life getting an art history degree instead of a accounting degree, and let’s also say I disagree. The man is as set in his beliefs as a 50-year-old Southern Baptist. I know discussion will only rile him and sour his mood. We’re good enough friends where he knows our relationship is more important than opinion on social issues, so I decide to ignore him and let him go, instead of sparking debate. False harmony abounds, but only you know of it. I chose friendship and peace over hardlining the political bigotry. Most people aren’t fanatical political machines, so why go looking for trouble? I do think we should discuss politics more, but I can’t help but read this whole post as a “I’m a say what I want and you can just deal with it” disclaimer. I agree it’s necessary to say so, though. People who would remove you from Facebook instead of talk to you do have a problem, not just that they hate your opinions so much, but also that they resent your ability to even have one. In summary, I disagree false harmony is an always-negative situation and think it’s deplorable you have to include a disclaimer for your opinions. An opinion is either right or wrong, and it is solely yours, why is that such a problem for some people?

    1. John! Brilliant! Thank you for responding. First, I appreciate you disagreeing with me on my ‘false harmony’ idea. I may be speaking too subjectively on this point. I agree that we should not force political debate when it is not wanted. I worry that many see being passionate about politics and government as a negative, versus it being neutral. I am also fear that too many people shy away from the conversation because they do not know enough…avoiding the subject versus learning more, listening more, and asking more questions.

      I will say that I wonder if the 50-year old guy in your example is looking for a friend that is willing to debate those issues without fear of losing that friendship. This would require more maturity on the part of both parties, but not a stretch of the imagination in the scenario you presented. Point made though.

      Thank you for calling me out on the disclaimer: “I’m a say what I want and you can just deal with it”. Not gonna lie…I am sick of erasing tweets for fear of the backlash. Consequently, most of my political and social arguments will continue to happen in person, and almost never on fb — for better for worse.

      Thank you for the articulate and thoughtful response. I appreciate it more than you know!

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